下课后，儿子很高兴地对我说他们正在准备graduation concert。 K2 的同学们要毕业了， 儿子的K1 班也有份参加。
突然兴起，把摆在厨里多年的Convocation旧相簿拿了出来给儿子看。哇，女儿和儿子好像捡到宝！指这儿，指哪儿，口里不停说着“妈妈，妈妈”。两兄妹好像在比赛看谁能赢这“SPOT THE MUMMY CONTEST”
我就借着机会psycho他们两。看看他们想不想长大后也convocate。“要，我也要！” 当他们正看得兴起时，我也在多年后再度翻阅这相簿。天阿！十一年前的我好年轻阿！还有与家人合照的， 和朋友合照的，和死党们的合照。真的是勾起了不少少年时的回忆。
尤其是和AJPS的死党的合照，真的是好怀念AJC的岁月。那天天呆在darkroom 聊天，做tutorials，process film， develop photos 的日子。
这张，我们是排成一行的。那张，我们是排成V字形的。还有这张，站在高高的柱子上。哇！极会摆pose ，不愧是AJPS的精英。那一张张青春洋溢的脸孔， 那一张张充满期待的样子。All ready to face the real world? hmmm... 连我自己都不太记得自己心中的想法是什么了。只感谢上天眷顾我，毕业至今，家庭， 感情，事业都交了不错的成绩单。
儿子打断了我的思绪说了一句“妈妈，我明年也要convocate了。” ：）
---- posted by Mommy
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Friday, July 25, 2008
Reasoning with my 5-year old
I realised that it is not an easy battle after a few tries. Reasoning with my 5-year old requires me to take each step with caution and also to really structure my sentences properly.
Let me give you an example.
We were having dinner the other night. And Jiaheng doesn't seem to have much appetite that night and taking his food very slowly. I decided to give him a time limit to complete his meal. As with any people, we have to put in the RISK and REWARD to get them going.
If he cannot complete his meal in the next 15 minutes. his RISK will be:
- not to be able to ride on his bicycle for the rest of the night.
His REWARD will be:
- to be able to join Yixuan and me in a ball game after dinner.
I said this "Jiaheng, if you cannot finish your meal in the next 15 minutes, you cannot ask to ride your bicycle for the rest of tonight." Thinking that I should pre-empt the situation for tomorrow, I 'smart-aleckly' added "If tomorrow, the same thing happens, you cannot ride your bicycle and your scooter bike for tomorrow night"
Thinking that I have covered all grounds, Papa feels happy about himself.
Then Jiaheng asked "Papa, if I cannot ride the bicycle and scooter bike tomorrow. Does it mean I can ride my scooter bike later if I cannot finish my food in 15 mins?"
Aiyoh! How har? Should I say yes or no? Based on Jiaheng's reasoning, the answer should be "yes". But if I say yes, then there is no RISK already.
Finally, I said "Yes, Jiaheng" and abruptly completed the episode by saying "Eat your food quickly". *gua gua gua...* :< (hitting my own foot with my hammer!)
Hmmm... kids nowadays har!! Need to be extra careful with words and reasoning the next round.
Let me give you an example.
We were having dinner the other night. And Jiaheng doesn't seem to have much appetite that night and taking his food very slowly. I decided to give him a time limit to complete his meal. As with any people, we have to put in the RISK and REWARD to get them going.
If he cannot complete his meal in the next 15 minutes. his RISK will be:
- not to be able to ride on his bicycle for the rest of the night.
His REWARD will be:
- to be able to join Yixuan and me in a ball game after dinner.
I said this "Jiaheng, if you cannot finish your meal in the next 15 minutes, you cannot ask to ride your bicycle for the rest of tonight." Thinking that I should pre-empt the situation for tomorrow, I 'smart-aleckly' added "If tomorrow, the same thing happens, you cannot ride your bicycle and your scooter bike for tomorrow night"
Thinking that I have covered all grounds, Papa feels happy about himself.
Then Jiaheng asked "Papa, if I cannot ride the bicycle and scooter bike tomorrow. Does it mean I can ride my scooter bike later if I cannot finish my food in 15 mins?"
Aiyoh! How har? Should I say yes or no? Based on Jiaheng's reasoning, the answer should be "yes". But if I say yes, then there is no RISK already.
Finally, I said "Yes, Jiaheng" and abruptly completed the episode by saying "Eat your food quickly". *gua gua gua...* :< (hitting my own foot with my hammer!)
Hmmm... kids nowadays har!! Need to be extra careful with words and reasoning the next round.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Whose side of the bed should we sacrifice?
Every afternoon, Kai Hock will debate over whose side of the bed should we let Yixuan sleep on for her nap?
Yixuan is turning 21 months. We are trying to potty train her. She is relatively "zai" (meaning steady) when she is awake. When she needs to pass urine, she will make a "err" sound. When you bring her to the toilet, she will squat down, then appear stun for a few seconds (I think she is thinking of how to go about it cos still not part of her natural response yet). And she is done! After that, she will be so proud of herself and motion me to see her by-product.
When you check with her whether she needs to go to the toilet and she has no need for that, she will tell you "No". Of course, there are still times when there are accidents. We are fine with that cos we just mop it away and change her then we are fine.
The challenge comes when she takes her nap. Oh oh! So whose side of the bed should she lie on this afternoon? Of course, we will take precautions like making her go toilet before napping. And putting a blanket that is tripled folded under her. The challenge really lies in the moment of her waking. We have to be SUPER fast to transport her to the toilet the very instant she wakes.
That is the point when we can't make it and the result is a wet blanket. On days, when we are lucky, the blanket manages to absorb most water and only a bit seep through. On not so good days, you know the result lah...
Still far from being fully potty trained, but I think Yixuan is doing great.
---- posted by Mommy
Yixuan is turning 21 months. We are trying to potty train her. She is relatively "zai" (meaning steady) when she is awake. When she needs to pass urine, she will make a "err" sound. When you bring her to the toilet, she will squat down, then appear stun for a few seconds (I think she is thinking of how to go about it cos still not part of her natural response yet). And she is done! After that, she will be so proud of herself and motion me to see her by-product.
When you check with her whether she needs to go to the toilet and she has no need for that, she will tell you "No". Of course, there are still times when there are accidents. We are fine with that cos we just mop it away and change her then we are fine.
The challenge comes when she takes her nap. Oh oh! So whose side of the bed should she lie on this afternoon? Of course, we will take precautions like making her go toilet before napping. And putting a blanket that is tripled folded under her. The challenge really lies in the moment of her waking. We have to be SUPER fast to transport her to the toilet the very instant she wakes.
That is the point when we can't make it and the result is a wet blanket. On days, when we are lucky, the blanket manages to absorb most water and only a bit seep through. On not so good days, you know the result lah...
Still far from being fully potty trained, but I think Yixuan is doing great.
---- posted by Mommy
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Luckily, you marry Papa
I really don't know what sparked off this thought in Jiaheng's mind.
On the trip to Grandma's place for dinner, Jiaheng made an interesting comment. "Mommy you know, Papa is such a good manager" * Har ! Eh, but your Papa is not a manager leh *
"Why do you say so, Jiaheng?"
"Because Papa can manage so many things so well" * At the back of my mind, I can already picture Kai Hock's smug look when I tell him this *
"Luckily, you marry Papa. If not, Jiaheng won't have such a good Papa and Yixuan won't have such a good Mommy."
I felt like crying when I heard those words. Our son appreciates us and is proud of us! Isn't that what we as parents hope for?
They are the reason why we are working hard. We want the best for them. We want to groom them. We love them. We want to be their role model. But we also want them to feel proud of us isn't it?
While still feeling touched, at the back of my mind, I can see Kai Hock's smug face again. :P
------ posted by Mommy
On the trip to Grandma's place for dinner, Jiaheng made an interesting comment. "Mommy you know, Papa is such a good manager" * Har ! Eh, but your Papa is not a manager leh *
"Why do you say so, Jiaheng?"
"Because Papa can manage so many things so well" * At the back of my mind, I can already picture Kai Hock's smug look when I tell him this *
"Luckily, you marry Papa. If not, Jiaheng won't have such a good Papa and Yixuan won't have such a good Mommy."
I felt like crying when I heard those words. Our son appreciates us and is proud of us! Isn't that what we as parents hope for?
They are the reason why we are working hard. We want the best for them. We want to groom them. We love them. We want to be their role model. But we also want them to feel proud of us isn't it?
While still feeling touched, at the back of my mind, I can see Kai Hock's smug face again. :P
------ posted by Mommy
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